Feedback tips for the conflict-avoidant

My dad was so conflict-avoidant that he once chewed through half an avocado at a dinner party, even though he detested the things with a vengeance. He couldn’t bring himself to let the host know he didn’t like them, even though they had asked everyone prior if there was anything people didn’t like to eat.…

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Step into the spotlight

Recently I sat down (albeit, over Zoom) with my clever friend Russell Pickering, who also happens to be the Founder and Managing Director of The Pickering Group. Russell and The Pickering Group help teams and individuals find their spotlight – and step into it. From presentation training and public speaking skills (both virtual and in-person)…

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Beware the ‘Boss Shadow Effect’

Shadow of a person on the grass

Loads of leaders have a blind spot when it comes to underestimating the shadow they cast.  I call it the Boss Shadow Effect. Many of us assume our teams are open and honest with us. About what they’re really thinking about our latest idea, how we ran that Monday morning meeting or what they think…

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8 Awesome Phrases To Say To Your Boss

Have you ever felt a bit nervy about speaking to your boss about certain topics? As much as the word ‘boss’ totally creeps me out (it’s soooo ’90’s already), the reality is, many of us have some level of anxiety when it comes to having certain conversations with the person responsible for our pay packet. Bringing…

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7 Questions To Ask At Your Next Meeting (plus your chance to win a leadership book)

A great meeting can be equally as inspiring as a weekend with Richie on Necker Island. But, other meetings can flounder in the “please-shoot-me-now-before-I-die-of-boredom-and-shove-my-ballpoint-into-my-eye” wasteland. The great news is, there are some simple questions you can begin using to shake things up, get people thinking (always a good thing), potentially make you look clever (again, always a good…

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6 Conversations Leaders Need To Have Right Now

If good leadership means Facing Reality with a capital F, why do we hold back from saying what needs to be said? What gets in the way of us having chest-restricting, gut-churning but oh-so-freeing, ‘Facing Reality Conversations’? The irony is, when we speak honestly (and from the heart) about difficult situations, the fears that have been festering…

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It’s Not What You Say, It’s How You Say It

My colleague Ken and I were marching triumphantly towards our cars after an important client meeting. We had the self-satisfied gate of suits who thought they had “sealed the deal”. So chuffed were we in our efforts, we decided to delay returning to the office and instead stop for a coffee to celebrate and debrief.…

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