Every now and then I take a little detour to Self Doubt City. If you’re a leader, I’m sure you know this interesting place just as well as I do.
It’s where the ‘self talk choir’ belt out high volume phrases like…
“I suck at this…”
“I’m not good enough…”
“What the heck am I doing here…”
Supported by a symphony of feel sorry for myself sighs, judgemental self talk and frustrated frowns.
This week, my check-in time to Self Doubt City has been a bit longer than normal. In fact, the thing about self-doubt is, if you let it, it creeps into all aspects of your life – even your decision-making.
So much so, I even toyed (for a millisecond) giving up writing The Leaders Digest in favour of curling up in the foetal position on a beach in Costa Rica.
Desperate to escape, I tried pushing through it – a bit like working out after a few wines the night before. Yeah, that didn’t go so well.
What to do when you’re stuck in Self Doubt City? I don’t feel like I’ve got the answers yet. But for what it’s worth, this has helped me.
1. Breathing deeply.
2. Talk to your peeps. Your mentor. Your coach. Your mates.
3. Reflect. What is it that’s making me feel this way?
4. Be kind to yourself. It’s OK to experience self-doubt. Everyone goes through it.
5. Relax. It’s going to be OK.
6. Focus on your strengths. What have you recently done really well? Write them down.
So now it’s over to you – I’d love to hear your tips for getting through periods of self-doubt. How do you do it? What advice can you share? I’m still working through this shaky patch, so I’m really keen and super grateful to hear your comments…thanks guys…